3 Things that Every Guy Can Do to be More Attractive

3 Things that Every Guy Can Do to be More Attractive

Transforming yourself into a guy that women fight over can take years, even if you devote considerable energy to it. In the last 18 months I’ve talked to thousands of women and I’m still a long, long way from being all that I’m capable of. However, thinking short term, there are three simple changes that you can make today which will have an immediate impact on how women view you.

1 – Stand Up Like you Deserve to Exist

Tom Hardy has excellent posture without looking like a drill sergeant

Cool guys have great posture. They walk with their shoulders back, chest out and head back. A good rule of thumb, suggested by Wade Alters, is that your chin should never extend past your chest. Tilting your head towards a girl when you’re in conversation is called pecking, a big turn off. Champions maintain straight posture and get closer to a girl with their entire body.

While good posture is paramount it’s possible to go too far. Ramrod straight, walking like you have a stick up your ass. This isn’t much better than poor posture. To get the proper posture, pull your shoulders all the way back, stick out your chest and bring your head as far back as it will go. Then relax everything by 20%, this should result in a confident stance that feels comfortable.

2 – It’s About Your Tonality, not What You Say

There are three types of tonality: trying for rapport, neutral and breaking rapport. When you’re speaking with women it’s best to use neutral or breaking rapport. These tones unconsciously display that you’re not worried about her approval and confident in expressing yourself. Trying for rapport is the worst. Nothing says let’s just be friends like a guy who uses trying for rapport a lot.

Like over-the-top posture you can take this too far. I’ve found that if you use nothing but breaking rapport it can push the girl away. It’s a commanding tone that is attractive in small doses but irritating if overused. Besides talking to girls, it’s useful to be aware of vocal tonality in all aspects of life. For instance, if you need to get people to listen to you, breaking rapport is the best way to capture attention.

3 – Look Her in the Eye

You’re aware that eye contact is important, but what grade would you give yourself on it? It’s a tricky thing to master because we often break eye contact without meaning to. Even though it’s sometimes impossible to control in the moment, the instinct to look away can be gradually eradicated. The more time you spend talking to girls, the more conscious effort you put into eye contact, the longer you’ll be able to hold it. I’ve even found that you can overdo it until girls say things like,

Why are you being creepy!” or “Stop looking at me like that!” 

This is good! It’s 10x better to have a girl feel uncomfortable because of your intense eye contact, versus her thinking that you’re a weak-beta-bitch because you can’t look her in the eye. Once you get to the point where your eye contact is fantastic, you can back off a bit and get into that sweet zone. It takes practice but the payoffs are enormous.

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