Every man is capable of conversation, nobody ever runs out of things to say to their grandma. Guys run out of things to say to a girl because they’re nervous to fully express themselves. Permanently fixing the problem comes down to talking to hundreds of women and gaining confidence in expressing your personality. However, until you reach the point of effortless conversation, here are some tips that you can apply right now.
Ask lots of questions. “Interview mode” is not ideal, however, between walking away from the girl or asking a bunch of questions, go with the questions.
“Where are you from, what do you like to do, what’s your favorite movie, where have you traveled, do you have any siblings, etc.”
Free associate. Maybe you start talking about a TV show, which reminds you of watching a movie with your family so you talk about that. This reminds you of your home town and how you hated it, so you tell her about your stupid high school, and so on. The key is to be non-judgmental about what comes out of your mouth. Your words don’t have to be witty or interesting, the only criteria for success is that you keep speaking.
Find something silly and make it interesting. When I was learning how to talk forever, me and my wingman would go out to the bar, hit on girls and challenge each other to talk about ridiculous shit. The key to making this work is enthusiasm. We’d say things like,
“Holy shit, have you ever realized how amazing fire alarms are! Think about how many lives they must have saved, I’m really glad we have them.”
“Would you just look at this nice wood bar. Think about how many people have put their beers down on it, how much action it’s seen. I think it’s incredible how many memories have been created here.”
Is this good game? No, definitely not. However, the goal isn’t to have the best game, it’s to train yourself to feel comfortable talking about anything.
Dig for commonalities
Find something that you have in common. This is like digging for gold. You ask questions about her life until you find something that you have in common. Then you riff on that topic. In fact, this idea works well for anyone you’re talking to. If you can find a commonality you’ll instantly build more rapport and the conversation will be more interesting.
Talk about whatever you enjoy most in life. This works because girls respond well to guys who speak with passion. The worst thing you can do is talk about something that you find boring. You’ll lose interest in the conversation, the girl will become bored, everything will fall apart. I enjoy traveling and I’ve been all over the world, so I typically lead the conversation in this direction. Sometimes as much as half the interaction will be us talking about where we’ve been, where we want to go and what countries we liked the best. This is my X-factor in conversation, finding your own X-factor is an easy way to extend every interaction.
No matter where you’re at, running out of things to say is something that you’re capable of overcoming. I used to have massive problems and I thought I’d never get it handled. Boy was I clueless. With these tips and enough practice you can get over this problem for good.
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