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Can You Get Laid if you’re not Good Looking?

Can you get laid if you're not good looking?

In a word, yes. Looks are way less important to women than they are to men. Here are some things that matter more (by no means an exhaustive list).

  • Confidence. Confidence is the guy equivalent of boobs. Girls respond positively to it regardless of what you look like. Shape yourself into a guy who is confident around women (The Secret of Using Social Pressure to Build Confidence) and women will love you for it.
  • Social status. Women like guys in leadership positions. This can be especially prevalent in the workplace, where a woman may date her boss or her boss’s boss, even though she wouldn’t look twice at him in a bar. Contextual social status can do wonders for a guy’s ability to get laid.
  • Wealth. Ignoring gold diggers, I suspect that the real power of wealth comes from its ability to create confidence. A wealthy guy can drive a car he loves, eat out anywhere without looking at the menu and fly first class. This can impart a natural swagger which women are drawn to.

If Nick Vujicic can do it, you can too

The great thing about these three attraction mechanisms is that they’re unrelated to how physically attractive you are. Every guy can improve himself in any of these areas. Further, every guy has at least some control over his appearance.

  • Go to the gym, lose the fat and build muscle.
  • Dress better. Women, consciously or otherwise, take note of what a guy is wearing.
  • Improve your nonverbal communication. Great posture, good eye contact, good voice tonality.

Nobody is hopeless. It doesn’t matter what you look like, you can enjoy a better sex life than James Bond. Optimize your appearance then focus on things that matter, like confidence and social status. Perhaps most importantly, remember that your thoughts become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think that you can’t get laid because you aren’t tall or good looking, women will be happy to oblige that reality. If you believe that looks don’t matter and that you’re the shit, women will think the same and they’ll want to be a part of your life.