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How to Ask a Girl for her Number

How to get a girl's phone number

Here’s an effective way to get her number and increase the chance of a future meetup.

  1. Have a good conversation. If things are awkward and you don’t like each other there’s obviously no point in trying to see her again.
  2. Set up the date in person. Figure out an activity that you’ll both enjoy. Sometimes guys make the mistake of asking a girl out on a date that she won’t enjoy. If that’s the case and she turns you down, it’s a reflection of her distaste for that activity, not a rejection of you.
  3. Figure out when you’re both free. This is 400% easier to figure out in person vs. over text.
  4. Ask for her number. I usually say something like,“Doing XYZ with you sounds like a blast. Let me grab your number and I’ll text you later.”
    “XYZ sounds like fun! Give me your number and I’ll text you on Thursday.”
    “It’s been really cool talking to you. Would you like to keep the conversation going another day?” “Sure!” “OK cool, let me get your number.”
    “What’s your number? I’m going to try to spell your name right in my contacts. Is this right?”

    And I hand her my phone with the contact app open and her name written in.
  5. Stay for a few minutes after you get the number. This solidifies the “relationship”. It shows her that you’re confident and fully interested in a future meetup.

Are Your Numbers Going Nowhere?

How to get her number

Was the interaction good enough to ask for the number?

If you’re getting a lot of phone numbers that are going nowhere you’re probably not having great conversations with women. Understand, getting numbers is the easiest part of the equation, most women you ask will give it to you. However, getting a girl to reply and meet up for a date is another story.

Most guys only end up going on dates with the women who they have an unusually good connection with. That’s normal. It’s an indication that the issue is rarely how you get the number, far more important is what type of interaction you have.